I was wondering "When does one realise that he/she is in love?" I often wonder and also practically see that people fall in love and get married. But most of these Love Marriages never last. The same person who was equivalent to the world once has become a pain after a few years of marriage.
Thinking about it a lot made me draw a conclusion that majority of the Boyfriend/Girlfriend relationships start over with basic attraction…where in one person gets attracted to some particular quality of the other person. Then this attraction leads to greed or possessing that person with the attractive quality. During this process, one changes themselves "so much" just to attract and then possess "their Love". Once possessed, then they start analyzing do I really love this person or not. Their LOVE (Attraction) is possessed and thus they then realise that I have achieved it and am happy. However this happiness seldom lasts as it was not love at all.. All it was.. was attraction.
Thus the reason Love Marriages lead to problems is the attraction factor.
True love according to me is when one grows with it. When you realise that I am spending more valuable time with this person and I’m enjoying every bit of it. It happens when both of them feel the need of one another in life but have never approached each other stating the word Love.. It is much more different than what we see in today’s life where a person attempts to get close to another using their different means - so called date movie, dinner date, long drive, gifts...etc etc ( again can be called as an attempt to attract so that one can possess it)
True Love seeks no attraction or possessiveness.. All it is jus Love.. Like that a mother has for her child. She doesn’t need to attract or possess her child as she already knows this child is mine.
Similarly when one realizes that she/he loves me equally and that she/he is comfortable with my presence, then its true love.
And when this realization hits you, you feel as if you have achieved ultimate bliss. This is the feeling a master/guru invokes in you with the divine love. You feel as though the Love is there for you forever and unchanged.
All those who are in love don't run to posses your love.. Live with it!!
Thinking about it a lot made me draw a conclusion that majority of the Boyfriend/Girlfriend relationships start over with basic attraction…where in one person gets attracted to some particular quality of the other person. Then this attraction leads to greed or possessing that person with the attractive quality. During this process, one changes themselves "so much" just to attract and then possess "their Love". Once possessed, then they start analyzing do I really love this person or not. Their LOVE (Attraction) is possessed and thus they then realise that I have achieved it and am happy. However this happiness seldom lasts as it was not love at all.. All it was.. was attraction.
Thus the reason Love Marriages lead to problems is the attraction factor.
True love according to me is when one grows with it. When you realise that I am spending more valuable time with this person and I’m enjoying every bit of it. It happens when both of them feel the need of one another in life but have never approached each other stating the word Love.. It is much more different than what we see in today’s life where a person attempts to get close to another using their different means - so called date movie, dinner date, long drive, gifts...etc etc ( again can be called as an attempt to attract so that one can possess it)
True Love seeks no attraction or possessiveness.. All it is jus Love.. Like that a mother has for her child. She doesn’t need to attract or possess her child as she already knows this child is mine.
Similarly when one realizes that she/he loves me equally and that she/he is comfortable with my presence, then its true love.
And when this realization hits you, you feel as if you have achieved ultimate bliss. This is the feeling a master/guru invokes in you with the divine love. You feel as though the Love is there for you forever and unchanged.
All those who are in love don't run to posses your love.. Live with it!!
Never fall in love, RISE IN LOVE!! - H. H. Sri Sri Ravishankar
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